It is not your fault.
If you are experiencing or have experienced stalking, it's not your fault.
Stalking in the context of intimate relationships is a course of conduct (i.e., more than one act) directed at a partner that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear, to experience emotional distress, or to fear for the safety of a third person. Acts that together constitute stalking may be direct actions or communicated by a third party. Acts can include, but are not limited to: threats of harm to self or others; pursuing or following; non‐consensual (unwanted) communication by any means; unwanted gifts; trespassing; and surveillance or other types of observation.
Stalking, as defined by Virginia law, is a pattern of repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact, or any other course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to fear death, sexual assault, or bodily injury. Stalking can include:
If you are experiencing stalking, it can be critical to maintain a log of stalking-related incidents and behavior, especially if you choose to engage with the criminal or civil justice systems. Recording this information will help to document the behavior for protection order applications, divorce and child custody cases, or criminal prosecution. It can also help preserve your memory of individual incidents about which you might later report or testify. Use the stalking log to record and document all stalking-related behavior, including the behaviors listed above or any behavior that causes you fear or contributes to an overall pattern of behaviors that causes you fear. When reporting the incidents to law enforcement, always write down the officer's name and badge number for your records. Even if the officers do not make an arrest, you can ask them to make a written report and request a copy for your records.
Please remember this is not your fault and how you feel is normal. There are people on and off-campus that are here to support you.
You may also phone VCU Police at 804-828-1234 and ask to connect with a 24-hour on-call VCU Counseling Services therapist.